four things bdsm has taught me about being a good ally June 29, 2009

First, for your entertainment, a fun interview I did with Midori a couple of weeks ago for Capital Xtra.
Second, a brief note to say that I’m jetting off to Australia in a coupla days to spend two and a half weeks with Boi L, and I’m not sure how much blogging I’ll get done while [...]

no safeword for oppression, or, thoughts on being an ally June 24, 2009

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the concept of being an ally. I spoke on a panel not long ago in which a fellow panelist said she doesn’t like the term “ally” as applied to herself because that makes it sound as though the struggle in question (whatever that may be – we weren’t [...]

send me your poly art (and/or send bear and kate your gender outlaw writing) June 15, 2009

So a lovely lady who happens to work at one of the sex shops where I regularly present just recently made a very intriguing suggestion to me. She said it might be cool if I were to turn my “10 Realistic Rules for Good Non-Monogamous Relationships” into a zine that she could stock and sell [...]

conclusions! (or, thanks for your advice!) June 8, 2009

So here I am with some follow-up to all your awesome feedback a couple of posts back. Thanks to everyone who got in touch!
With that very un-scientific survey of your desires and preferences in mind, I’ve come to a few conclusions.
1. Product reviews.
Not gonna do ‘em. Honestly, I was already pretty sure about this [...]

the truth of fiction: canadian queers June 2, 2009

Could somebody please turn on the summer? I mean seriously. I’m sitting here wearing jeans, a shirt, a polar fleece and a pair of fuzzy slippers, with a mug of steaming tea, a huge polar fleece blanket wrapped around me, and a pashmina artfully draped around my head and shoulders because silly me, I forgot [...]