The theme of D/s and power relationships has been at the forefront of my mind of late. Not too long ago, I put out a post about what I call This Thing—a particular sort of ownership-based D/s dynamic that some people call M/s (Master/slave). I realized, after writing it, that I haven’t ever attempted to [...]
Archive for the ‘non-monogamy’ Category
privilege, guilt and the global politics of the sexually different
September 11, 2010
The following is a comment that was just left following my post “‘It’s Not About Sex’ and Other Lies.” It’s incredibly thought-provoking and so I wrote a long response to it, and then I realized that really this should be a post in and of itself. So, for starters, here’s Marissa’s comment. *** Thanks for [...]
“it’s not about sex” and other lies
August 23, 2010
The following is the talk I gave this afternoon at the closing banquet for The Floating World, a supercool (and absolutely massive) sex-positive annual weekend conference in New Jersey. The teaser for the talk read as follows: “This is a talk about the lies we tell ourselves and the rest of the world. It’s a [...]
how to do everything – except…
July 22, 2010
A while back, I was sent a review copy of the TV series “Sex: How to Do Everything,” starring Em and Lo, former Nerve.com columnists who now host their own sex advice website and have co-authored several sex advice books. Now, I have a pretty strict policy about not doing product reviews. But I do [...]
against the veto (or, fear by any other name…)
June 21, 2010
“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt I’ve been thinking lately about how the first question on everyone’s lips—poly and monogamous alike—when the topic of non-monogamy comes up is, “How do you deal with the jealousy?” Seriously? I’m so tired of it. The first reason is because jealousy [...]
