the adventures continue… in san fran and back home

First things first: shameless self-promotion! I am very excited to announce that Pepper Mint and I will be co-presenting our kinky/queer/poly talk for the second time in two weeks, this time at the Center for Sex and Culture (Carol Queen’s fantastic academic/community resource centre). And this time, we have a nice big time slot to fill. Yum! … More the adventures continue… in san fran and back home

calling it: non-consent and the insecure dominant

The international BDSM list of which I am a member has been sustaining a number of discussions about the concept of domestic discipline, consent and related topics. This inspired my last post, on domestic discipline, but the ongoing discussion has inspired a few more thoughts, this time with regard to non-consensual bad behaviour on the … More calling it: non-consent and the insecure dominant

the nature (or nurture) of domestic discipline

Yesterday, on an international BDSM discussion list I’m part of, someone brought up an article in the most recent issue of Bitch magazine and asked people for their thoughts. The article, written by Jessica Wakeman, is entitled “Slap Happy,” and it’s about the domestic discipline subculture. Needless to say I was intrigued, so I went … More the nature (or nurture) of domestic discipline

three cities, three themes: porn, aging and lady parts

It would appear there’s a ton of stuff going on in the next couple of weeks which I must miss. Of course I’ll be missing these things because I’ll be hanging out in sunny San Francisco attending and speaking the Leather Leadership Conference (just for starters) so I’m not really complaining. So, for those in … More three cities, three themes: porn, aging and lady parts