entitlement again: this time, correction and punishment

A budding kinkster asked me recently how I see the idea of entitlement working with the concepts of correction and punishment in a D/s scenario or relationship. I’ve written in the past about the difference between play and punishment, but I didn’t really touch on the difference between correction and punishment, or the whys and… More entitlement again: this time, correction and punishment

eroticizing vs exoticizing: sex with trans people

I just finished reading M. Christian’s anthology, Trans Figures: Transgender Erotica. And I’m sad to say I didn’t like it much. This is definitely an example of how my politics are inextricably linked to my libido. I just can’t get turned on by stuff that’s politically questionable. There’s a vast difference between eroticizing the forbidden… More eroticizing vs exoticizing: sex with trans people

the limp noodle

This is probably the only post you will ever read from me about soft dicks. Just so ya know. It’s not that I have a problem with dicks, soft or otherwise. Sometimes they’re kinda cute; sometimes they’re fun to play with. It’s just that I get so annoyed with the way people locate penises as… More the limp noodle