We’ve all heard about the great debate about homosexuality: It’s a choice! No, gays are born that way! No, it’s a choice! And so forth. Over the last few years, I’ve started to see a similar question come up on kinky discussion groups and lists with regard to other non-normative ways of experiencing sexuality. People … More we’re having the wrong conversation
I started blogging in February 2006. At the time, Friendster was as good as it got in the realm of social networking (remember, back in the dinosaur age when there was no Facebook?!), and I knew nothing about the various fabulous blogging options available to me. I just wanted a place to tentatively put some … More the joy of re-runs! (prefaced with a boring preamble)
Not too long ago, I gave the keynote address at PolyCamp, a wonderful weekend in the woods of Ontario during which a bunch of poly people got together and talk about any number of relevant topics. I titled that address “Plural Perspectives.” It occurred to me that it might be fun to post the meat … More plural perspectives
So this is where I confess to being a bad, bad person. Or perhaps I should say, a bad bad blogger. Not so much in terms of my writing, but rather in terms of my dismal track record of participating in the rich and vibrant online community of sexuality bloggers. When I started this blog … More sex bloggers rock (and i am a bad person)
A few months back, I got an earnest comment on this blog from a guy I’d never met, named John Baku. He invited me to take a look at the new site he’d created, and post a review here if I liked it. That site was FetLife.com. Now, I get a lot of people sending … More fetlife and fall fun
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