some thoughts on dialogue that often isn’t*

*When I originally posted the piece “taking a trip down memory lane with anti-sm feminism,” which I re-posted here last week, a reader left the following comment: “Hmm, I’ve gotta take issue with your take on Farley’s censorship argument. Her point (so far as I can tell) isn’t that anti-SM sentiments are being literally censored, … More some thoughts on dialogue that often isn’t*

kink in three studies

A long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away, I began a project to review every essay contained in a most intriguing book entitled Sadomasochism: Powerful Pleasures, a collection of academic articles about SM edited by Peggy Kleinplatz and Charles Moser. I posted reviews of the first five articles (links here for the curious: … More kink in three studies

taking a trip down memory lane with anti-SM feminism*

*I originally posted this on January 11, 2007. I followed it up with a second post, which I will re-post here next week as a continuation of the theme. Oh, but before you read it, check out Inverted Eye, a new online boutique that is… well, I almost don’t want to spoil the surprise.  Suffice … More taking a trip down memory lane with anti-SM feminism*

expectations of dominance: picking through the tangle

Lately, I’ve come across a number of instances that have made it really clear to me that people in the BDSM/leather world have a wide range of completely disparate ideas about what a dominant should or shouldn’t be. For all that dominant kinksters are, well, dominant, that doesn’t mean we’re any less affected by other … More expectations of dominance: picking through the tangle

’tis the season: notes from the sex grinch*

*I originally posted this on December 19, 2006. Apparently I’m still a grinch today! (A note for 2008: Read Barry Webster’s erotic short story “Jingle Balls” in the anthology Lust for Life: Tales of Sex and Love, edited by Claude Lalumière and Elise Moser, if you want a genuinely disturbing take on a Santa Claus … More ’tis the season: notes from the sex grinch*