topping a top

Not too long ago, I was approached by a big, bad, burly dyke dominant. She explained her situation to me and asked for some help. In short, she’s relatively new to the BDSM scene and she had been given the clear message by a number of people (and books, and so forth) that if she’s… More topping a top

ooh, baby, let me get out my agenda: the logistics of non-monogamy

One of my most popular workshops is the one I give based on my 10 Realistic Rules for Good Non-Monogamous Relationships (soon to be a zine – I’ll keep ya posted). And one of the things I find people are most often hungry for, which I don’t address in that piece or workshop, is the… More ooh, baby, let me get out my agenda: the logistics of non-monogamy