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Month: July 2018

against the false flip: on mutuality in kink

July 3, 2018

Today I want to tackle (read: tear apart) a common kink misconception I’ve been hearing off and on for the better part of twenty years. That is: in BDSM, the power is actually in the hands of the bottom or submissive. This statement is profoundly weird. I think people started saying it in order to … More against the false flip: on mutuality in kink

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