banal, everyday, everywhere

I had a tiny moment today at the bike shop that really got me thinking. So here’s a #thinkythink post where I try (and maybe fail) to put it into words. I remember, when I was a kid, my father telling us about growing up in a small Northern Ontario town, where the milk was … More banal, everyday, everywhere

blood and plastic: on periods, packaging and priorities

In the news in the last couple of days, you may have read about Procter & Gamble’s decision to remove the Venus symbol from their packaging because some transmasculine activists pointed out that not everyone who uses menstrual products is a woman. P&G’s official statement, quoted in the linked article, is a bit of a … More blood and plastic: on periods, packaging and priorities

on power, heartbreak and the mainstreaming of (only some) kink

This week, Autostraddle published an essay by a self-identified lesbian dominant discussing her recent break-up with her submissive. It caused a bit of a stir in the comments section; the editor shut down comment; then a reader noticed the article had linked out to one of my reading lists and contacted me in case I … More on power, heartbreak and the mainstreaming of (only some) kink

who’s queer? whose queer? on claims, identities and kink (among other things) at pride – part 2

I’m seeing a lot of talk right now on the interwebs about who belongs at Pride. And most of it seems to be trying to address at least two separate questions, but mushed together. I’m going to try and disentangle them here a bit. The first question is: Who gets to claim they’re queer? I … More who’s queer? whose queer? on claims, identities and kink (among other things) at pride – part 2

who’s queer? whose queer? on claims, identities and kink (among other things) at pride – part 1

I’m seeing a lot of talk right now on the interwebs about who belongs at Pride. And most of it seems to be trying to address at least two separate questions, but mushed together. I’m going to try and disentangle them here a bit. The first question is: Who gets to claim they’re queer? This … More who’s queer? whose queer? on claims, identities and kink (among other things) at pride – part 1