jealousy is to possessiveness as erotica is to porn?

In response to this Twitter thread from Melissa A. Fabello, I have some thoughts on jealousy vs possessiveness to share. Attache ta tuque, as they say! I appreciate how the writer normalizes jealousy. I agree that jealousy truly is not a polyamory thing, it’s a human thing, and it’s at least as common, if not … More jealousy is to possessiveness as erotica is to porn?

consider pain: why the social model of disability fails

Today I am spurred to rant about the social model of disability and why it’s inadequate. The social model says, essentially, that disability, rather than being a characteristic of an individual, is created by society. On its surface, this is super useful. For instance: if a building has stairs, and a person cannot go up … More consider pain: why the social model of disability fails

off the escalator, into the library

“In a nutshell, the traditional Relationship Escalator looks like this: two (and only two) people progress from initial attraction and dating, to becoming sexually and romantically involved and exclusive, to adopting a shared identity as a couple, to moving in together and otherwise merging their lives—all the way up to marriage and kids, ‘til death … More off the escalator, into the library

on bibles and buttsex

Truth: I’m only talking about one bible. Specifically, Lesbian Sex Bible: The New Guide to Sexual Love for Same-Sex Couples by Diana Cage. The buttsex part is more literal though. (Stay tuned for more, too, as my next review will be of Carlyle Jansen’s Anal Sex Basics: The Beginner’s Guide to Maximizing Anal Pleasure for … More on bibles and buttsex