these are a few of my favourite things

Snakes. Snakes are damn sexy. Smooth, muscular, not human, fully prehensile. Heat-seeking creatures with heavy cultural symbolism and taboo built into every scale. The way they scent you with their forked tongues, slither and wrap themselves around you in a slow, dry, deliberate caress. The way they rear up when surprised, ready to strike but … More these are a few of my favourite things

califia in canada (and some shameless self-promotion)

Tonight I had the pleasure of attending a workshop in Ottawa with Patrick Califia entitled “Getting Hot When You Hurt,” in which he discussed all manner of insightful ideas about sex for people with disabilities or pain. He’s hopping over to Montreal next, as am I – not in that stalker-ish sort of way or … More califia in canada (and some shameless self-promotion)

re-thinking ritual: costumes, creativity and cultural appropriation

A few days ago, a friend of mine casually asked if I’d be going to Northbound Leather’s big annual Halloween fashion show and play party. Apparently it’s the event of the year. This year, the party’s called TRIBE. So I went to the Northbound site to check it out. The image on the party ad … More re-thinking ritual: costumes, creativity and cultural appropriation

send me your poly art (and/or send bear and kate your gender outlaw writing)

So a lovely lady who happens to work at one of the sex shops where I regularly present just recently made a very intriguing suggestion to me. She said it might be cool if I were to turn my “10 Realistic Rules for Good Non-Monogamous Relationships” into a zine that she could stock and sell … More send me your poly art (and/or send bear and kate your gender outlaw writing)

titillating tidbits

Today’s post is a grab bag of interesting tidbits to titillate your brain. Yes, I know I’ve promised a new Powerful Pleasures review, but jeezis, I just got off a plane from Berlin three days ago and tomorrow I’m hopping on a bus to Ottawa – to emcee a leatherdyke wedding, no less! – so … More titillating tidbits