Today I want to tackle (read: tear apart) a common kink misconception I’ve been hearing off and on for the better part of twenty years. That is: in BDSM, the power is actually in the hands of the bottom or submissive. This statement is profoundly weird. I think people started saying it in order to … More against the false flip: on mutuality in kink
Ten years ago, I wrote about the concept of earned leather. I just re-read my post and felt a wave of… nostalgia? A lot has happened in that decade, and to revisit my perspectives from 2007 feels a bit like having tea with an old friend I haven’t seen in a long time. My thoughts … More earning my leathers, ten years later
Truth: I’m only talking about one bible. Specifically, Lesbian Sex Bible: The New Guide to Sexual Love for Same-Sex Couples by Diana Cage. The buttsex part is more literal though. (Stay tuned for more, too, as my next review will be of Carlyle Jansen’s Anal Sex Basics: The Beginner’s Guide to Maximizing Anal Pleasure for … More on bibles and buttsex
Hey there! Happy New Year! I’m not much one for New Year’s resolutions, but I am doing my darnedest to check a bunch of things off my long-standing to-do list, and it seems this week inspiration is in the air. So I’ve got a few book reviews coming for ya. I’ll post them individually this … More book review: confessions of a pickup artist chaser
In the past few years, I’ve undergone quite a number of medical tests and procedures, some highly invasive (spinal cord surgery), some much less so (Holter monitor). I started to notice that a kind of emotional exhaustion would occur after some of these procedures that I couldn’t explain only by the strain of having health … More the stuff inside
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