(Okay, so I know this post might sound awfully self-serving since it’s written by a self-defined queer sex geek, but I promise this is a cultural criticism essay and not a personal ad.) In the winter 2007/2008 issue of Bitch magazine, Sarah Seltzer wrote an article entitled “The (Girl) Geek Stands Alone: Hollywood Even Has a … More geek appeal: queer gals and the beauty of brains
Warning: this post might end up sounding a little woo-woo. I’m not really the woo-woo type, but I go there occasionally. Bear with me, okay? I’m also including a book review and two workshop reviews to balance woo-woo with geekery. So, tonight I enjoyed the second of two workshops given by Barbara Carrellas, author of … More the lazy kinky tantrika?
Not too long ago, I took a workshop with Laura Antoniou in San Francisco entitled “Tell Me What You Want, What You Really, Really Want.” Her premise was that in alt-sex communities, we’ve lost the art of seduction; our communication style has become too clean. Instead of seducing each other, we approach with questionnaires, lists … More the five-step flirt
Not too long ago, I got back from spending a month in San Francisco. While I was there, I spoke at two leather conferences – the Leather Leadership Conference and International Ms. Leather. Both were stellar events, as one might expect of kinky conferences held in the bellybutton of kink itself. I may attempt a … More the reasons i didn’t run
Recently I joined the Poly Researchers’ list, a yahoogroup based in the US that brings together academics of various stripes who are interested in studying a range of non-monogamous practices. Such brain food they provide… yummy. At the same time, every once in a while I come across some weird statements that leave me scratching … More polyamory is not an umbrella
You know, I’m sensing a bit of a theme here recently. I hope you’ll all forgive me for carping on it; I just feel like it keeps coming up in one guise or another, some positive, some not so much, and that makes it a constant buzz in my mind. That theme is entitlement. Today’s … More kink online: how not to cruise
Wow. It’s been a week since I last wrote. Yikes! For a while in there, I was able to post nearly every day. This was due to a combo of spending a lot of time alone (where I was staying in San Francisco) and a lot of time in situations of high intellectual stimulation (like, … More normal work: victorian-era domestic d/s