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Month: May 2012

of fame and money: on paying bdsm presenters

May 9, 2012

In the past couple of days, I’ve noticed a couple of posts making the rounds of the interwebs on the topic of payment for presenters at kink/leather/BDSM events. As a long-time sex and kink educator I have a lot of thoughts on this topic, and figured here would be a good place to share them. … More of fame and money: on paying bdsm presenters

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(don’t) assume the position

May 2, 2012

I stumbled across a blog post from a het male dom the other day, about the eight slave positions that he thinks “most dominants” train their submissives to do and have them do regularly. Of course what he really meant was “the het male dominants who think exactly like I do, and their gender-normative female submissives.” … More (don’t) assume the position

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