abuse among the kinky, part 2: 10 things to do to reduce abusive behaviour in the s/m world*

Mr. Leather Toronto starts tonight… so here’s the second instalment of “Abuse Among the Kinky, *originally posted in April 2007. Again, if you’re in town and interested in exploring the question further, come to the workshop that Ariel and I are giving on Saturday afternoon entitled “Lighting the Fire: BDSM and Abuse.” Details in the … More abuse among the kinky, part 2: 10 things to do to reduce abusive behaviour in the s/m world*

abuse among the kinky, part 1: 6 ways to think about abuse*

It’s a snowy, sunny Thursday and life is good. I have two notices for you today. First, for those in Toronto, there’s a panel about gender inequities in health care taking place next Tuesday night (November 25) at the Gladstone. All details are posted below. I find it quite interesting that the description of the … More abuse among the kinky, part 1: 6 ways to think about abuse*

the wrong reasons for same-sex marriage (or, that’s not the stonewall i knew)

Just a few days ago, I got a notice from the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF), an American organization that, in their words, “advances equal rights of consenting adults who practice forms of alternative sexual expression. NCSF is primarily focused on the rights of consenting adults in the SM-leather-fetish, swing, and polyamory communities.” If … More the wrong reasons for same-sex marriage (or, that’s not the stonewall i knew)

an incomplete timeline of sexual diversity – part 2* (and apologies, and dessert)

Did I skip my usual Monday post? I totally did, didn’t I? Yeesh. Well, it’s been a stupidly busy week that kicked off with a drive back from Kinsgston (after establishing that the Mamas and the Spawn and the brand-new wriggling pink squeaky sweet Spawnlet would be just fine if we left), a 12-hour stop … More an incomplete timeline of sexual diversity – part 2* (and apologies, and dessert)

an incomplete timeline of sexual diversity – part 1* (and a few happy announcements)

I’ve been trying to post every Monday and Thursday these last few weeks, but this Thursday, I skipped out. I promise I have a good reason though: there’s a new gal in my life these days. These last three days, to be specific. She was born on Wednesday afternoon, a month premature, to MamaE (who … More an incomplete timeline of sexual diversity – part 1* (and a few happy announcements)