In response to this Twitter thread from Melissa A. Fabello, I have some thoughts on jealousy vs possessiveness to share. Attache ta tuque, as they say! I appreciate how the writer normalizes jealousy. I agree that jealousy truly is not a polyamory thing, it’s a human thing, and it’s at least as common, if not … More jealousy is to possessiveness as erotica is to porn?
Today I am spurred to rant about the social model of disability and why it’s inadequate. The social model says, essentially, that disability, rather than being a characteristic of an individual, is created by society. On its surface, this is super useful. For instance: if a building has stairs, and a person cannot go up … More consider pain: why the social model of disability fails
“In a nutshell, the traditional Relationship Escalator looks like this: two (and only two) people progress from initial attraction and dating, to becoming sexually and romantically involved and exclusive, to adopting a shared identity as a couple, to moving in together and otherwise merging their lives—all the way up to marriage and kids, ‘til death … More off the escalator, into the library
It’s been a helluva month for queers, folks. Most especially for Black queers and queers of colour. Here’s the current situation. The Toronto chapter of Black Lives Matter, an organization that has sprung to life in the US and Canada to protest police brutality against Black people, was given Honoured Group status at Toronto Pride, … More of history and hope: in solidarity with black lives matter
You probably know this. A few days ago, a shooter killed 49 people at a gay nightclub in Orlando, Florida. That was how it was put when I first heard about it. I was lying in bed next to my partner, waking up in a sunny Sunday bedroom. My eyes weren’t open yet. She saw … More orlando: taking it personally, framing it politically
The book review blitz continues! I’ve got some other stuff in the works, too, including two more book reviews, a couple of film reviews, and a blog format update I hope you’ll like. Stay tuned!
For now, read on to learn more about a book that’s well worth a bit of your time. … More book review: succulent sexcraft
More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton did some of this work in The Ethical Slut, but the focus there was more sexual. Wendy-O-Matik did it in polemic form, beautifully if poorly edited, in her little self-published gem Redefining Our Relationships. But … More review: more than two