consider pain: why the social model of disability fails

Today I am spurred to rant about the social model of disability and why it’s inadequate. The social model says, essentially, that disability, rather than being a characteristic of an individual, is created by society. On its surface, this is super useful. For instance: if a building has stairs, and a person cannot go up … More consider pain: why the social model of disability fails

off the escalator, into the library

“In a nutshell, the traditional Relationship Escalator looks like this: two (and only two) people progress from initial attraction and dating, to becoming sexually and romantically involved and exclusive, to adopting a shared identity as a couple, to moving in together and otherwise merging their lives—all the way up to marriage and kids, ‘til death … More off the escalator, into the library

of history and hope: in solidarity with black lives matter

It’s been a helluva month for queers, folks. Most especially for Black queers and queers of colour. Here’s the current situation. The Toronto chapter of Black Lives Matter, an organization that has sprung to life in the US and Canada to protest police brutality against Black people, was given Honoured Group status at Toronto Pride, … More of history and hope: in solidarity with black lives matter

review: more than two

More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton did some of this work in The Ethical Slut, but the focus there was more sexual. Wendy-O-Matik did it in polemic form, beautifully if poorly edited, in her little self-published gem Redefining Our Relationships. But … More review: more than two

good intentions for 2015! also, a book review: playing the whore by melissa gira grant

Dear readers, Thanks for your patience. I am so pleased to know you’re still interested in reading me after all these years, especially since I rarely post these days. I miss you, and I miss writing here. I plan to do more of it as my health improves in 2015. I also have some other … More good intentions for 2015! also, a book review: playing the whore by melissa gira grant