who’s queer? whose queer? on claims, identities and kink (among other things) at pride – part 2

I’m seeing a lot of talk right now on the interwebs about who belongs at Pride. And most of it seems to be trying to address at least two separate questions, but mushed together. I’m going to try and disentangle them here a bit. The first question is: Who gets to claim they’re queer? I … More who’s queer? whose queer? on claims, identities and kink (among other things) at pride – part 2

who’s queer? whose queer? on claims, identities and kink (among other things) at pride – part 1

I’m seeing a lot of talk right now on the interwebs about who belongs at Pride. And most of it seems to be trying to address at least two separate questions, but mushed together. I’m going to try and disentangle them here a bit. The first question is: Who gets to claim they’re queer? This … More who’s queer? whose queer? on claims, identities and kink (among other things) at pride – part 1

we carry each other

I just wanna tell a little story about a thing that happened during today’s HotDocs screening of the documentary Killing Patient Zero at Hart House. It’s not about the film exactly, except that it kind of is. (The film is a devastating doc that thoroughly debunks the myth about Gaetan Dugas, supposed original spreader of … More we carry each other

jealousy is to possessiveness as erotica is to porn?

In response to this Twitter thread from Melissa A. Fabello, I have some thoughts on jealousy vs possessiveness to share. Attache ta tuque, as they say! I appreciate how the writer normalizes jealousy. I agree that jealousy truly is not a polyamory thing, it’s a human thing, and it’s at least as common, if not … More jealousy is to possessiveness as erotica is to porn?

consider pain: why the social model of disability fails

Today I am spurred to rant about the social model of disability and why it’s inadequate. The social model says, essentially, that disability, rather than being a characteristic of an individual, is created by society. On its surface, this is super useful. For instance: if a building has stairs, and a person cannot go up … More consider pain: why the social model of disability fails

off the escalator, into the library

“In a nutshell, the traditional Relationship Escalator looks like this: two (and only two) people progress from initial attraction and dating, to becoming sexually and romantically involved and exclusive, to adopting a shared identity as a couple, to moving in together and otherwise merging their lives—all the way up to marriage and kids, ‘til death … More off the escalator, into the library