Here’s review number two for 2016! *** Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships by Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson Michaels and Johnson have written a concise little book with a hybrid mission. The results are mixed, in part because they set a high bar for themselves going … More little book… big review!
Today, I have a few things to say about two articles on BDSM that have come across my feed these past couple of days: “No, Being Kinky Does Not Grant You Minority Status” by Meghan Murphy for Rabble.ca, and “The Trouble with Bondage: Why S&M Will Never Be Fully Accepted” by William Saletan for Slate.com. … More do your homework (or, what goes wrong when writers don’t… and then write about kink)
Polyamory is getting a lot of airtime in the media these days. It’s quite remarkable, really, and it represents a major shift over the last five to ten years. The problem—and it’s hardly surprising—is that the form of poly that’s getting by far the most airtime is the one that’s as similar to traditional monogamy … More the problem with polynormativity
The theme of D/s and power relationships has been at the forefront of my mind of late. Not too long ago, I put out a post about what I call This Thing—a particular sort of ownership-based D/s dynamic that some people call M/s (Master/slave). I realized, after writing it, that I haven’t ever attempted to … More what are we doing, here, exactly? or, conceptual frameworks for d/s relationships
The following is a comment that was just left following my post “‘It’s Not About Sex’ and Other Lies.” It’s incredibly thought-provoking and so I wrote a long response to it, and then I realized that really this should be a post in and of itself. So, for starters, here’s Marissa’s comment. *** Thanks for … More privilege, guilt and the global politics of the sexually different
The following is the talk I gave this afternoon at the closing banquet for The Floating World, a supercool (and absolutely massive) sex-positive annual weekend conference in New Jersey. The teaser for the talk read as follows: “This is a talk about the lies we tell ourselves and the rest of the world. It’s a … More “it’s not about sex” and other lies
A while back, I was sent a review copy of the TV series “Sex: How to Do Everything,” starring Em and Lo, former Nerve.com columnists who now host their own sex advice website and have co-authored several sex advice books. Now, I have a pretty strict policy about not doing product reviews. But I do … More how to do everything – except…