do your homework (or, what goes wrong when writers don’t… and then write about kink)

Today, I have a few things to say about two articles on BDSM that have come across my feed these past couple of days: “No, Being Kinky Does Not Grant You Minority Status” by Meghan Murphy for Rabble.ca, and “The Trouble with Bondage: Why S&M Will Never Be Fully Accepted” by William Saletan for Slate.com.… More do your homework (or, what goes wrong when writers don’t… and then write about kink)

what are we doing, here, exactly? or, conceptual frameworks for d/s relationships

The theme of D/s and power relationships has been at the forefront of my mind of late. Not too long ago, I put out a post about what I call This Thing—a particular sort of ownership-based D/s dynamic that some people call M/s (Master/slave). I realized, after writing it, that I haven’t ever attempted to… More what are we doing, here, exactly? or, conceptual frameworks for d/s relationships

privilege, guilt and the global politics of the sexually different

The following is a comment that was just left following my post “‘It’s Not About Sex’ and Other Lies.” It’s incredibly thought-provoking and so I wrote a long response to it, and then I realized that really this should be a post in and of itself. So, for starters, here’s Marissa’s comment. *** Thanks for… More privilege, guilt and the global politics of the sexually different