do your homework (or, what goes wrong when writers don’t… and then write about kink)

Today, I have a few things to say about two articles on BDSM that have come across my feed these past couple of days: “No, Being Kinky Does Not Grant You Minority Status” by Meghan Murphy for Rabble.ca, and “The Trouble with Bondage: Why S&M Will Never Be Fully Accepted” by William Saletan for Slate.com. … More do your homework (or, what goes wrong when writers don’t… and then write about kink)

what are we doing, here, exactly? or, conceptual frameworks for d/s relationships

The theme of D/s and power relationships has been at the forefront of my mind of late. Not too long ago, I put out a post about what I call This Thing—a particular sort of ownership-based D/s dynamic that some people call M/s (Master/slave). I realized, after writing it, that I haven’t ever attempted to … More what are we doing, here, exactly? or, conceptual frameworks for d/s relationships

privilege, guilt and the global politics of the sexually different

The following is a comment that was just left following my post “‘It’s Not About Sex’ and Other Lies.” It’s incredibly thought-provoking and so I wrote a long response to it, and then I realized that really this should be a post in and of itself. So, for starters, here’s Marissa’s comment. *** Thanks for … More privilege, guilt and the global politics of the sexually different