advice: yours and mine

Today’s is a two-part post. Well, maybe three. Sort of. Part 1 is some news. Part 2 is a few questions for you as a reader. Part 3 is some writing, but it relates back to part 2. Anyway. You’ll get what I mean as you go. *** Part 1: News! Or shameless self-promotion, your … More advice: yours and mine

on (not) being femme

So I’m hanging out in Vancouver this week, for the occasion of Canadian Mayhem, the new West Coast leatherdyke conference. And for some reason, rather than kink, the question that my mind is mulling over is that of queer femininity and femme identity. I feel like I’m poorly placed to say much about it. Which … More on (not) being femme

desperately seeking a hot bi babe (or, the politics of recruiting)

First things first. I must put in a plug (ha!) for the workshop I’m teaching this coming Sunday evening at Come As You Are in Toronto: Anal Play for Beginners. It runs 5:30 to 7:30 p.m., no demo bottoms (ha!) needed. Oy, I really must stop with the terrible puns. Anyway, do register if you … More desperately seeking a hot bi babe (or, the politics of recruiting)