About
Hi! Nice to meet you! My name is Andrea Zanin, otherwise known as the Sex Geek. I’m a gender-fluid queer-kinky-poly gal living in Toronto, Canada, and I spend a lot of time travelling around to other places too, most notably my former hometown, Montreal. I have a stupidly long CV of all the community activism, consulting, studying, reading, writing and teaching I’ve done on a wide range of topics related to alternative sexuality over the past eight years or so - among other things I’ve given over 65 workshops on a wide range of topics - but I’ll spare you the gory details. Suffice it to say that sex-geekiness is my passion, my life, and the most frequent fodder for my excessive and overflowing desire to write. I’m glad you found me… thanks for reading!
You can reach me by leaving a comment here or writing to me at veryqueer3 at yahoo dot ca.
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Okay, you really want the CV? Here are some choice bits of it. Seriously, the whole thing is waaay too long to post here.
Brief bio
Andrea Zanin, a.k.a. Sex Geek, pretty much writes and talks about sex all the time unless she’s eating, sleeping or having it. She lives in Toronto and is an organizer, educator and writer within the queer, polyamory and BDSM communities, as well as being an active trans ally. She frequently speaks about alternative sexuality for universities, colleges, sex shops, community groups and conferences in Canada and the States. Andrea also comments on alternative-sexuality news and politics in a variety of media including the Montreal Mirror and Dykes on Mikes (CKUT 90.3FM), as well as obsessively blogging at http://sexgeek.wordpress.com. On the side, she writes erotic fiction and pursues her studies in the field of sexuality. She can be reached at veryqueer3 at yahoo dot ca.
Current and recent stuff
- Co-organizer of An Unholy Harvest - Canada’s first weekend for women and transfolk of leather in over a decade, which took place in Ottawa from October 5 to 7, 2007. Workshops, play parties, film screenings and more! (More info here.)
- Speaker and workshop facilitator on various sexuality-related topics at colleges, universities, alternative sex shops and conferences. Check out my Workshops page for more info.
- Founding member and Board of Governors member for the Unholy Army of the Night, Montreal’s leatherdyke group (2003-present). (More info here.)
- Film writer for Image+Nation, Montreal’s international queer film festival (as of 2007), and for Inside Out, Toronto’s gay and lesbian film festival (as of 2008).
- Occasional guest host and interview subject with Dykes on Mikes radio show in Montreal, CKUT 90.3 (2005-present).
- Regular contributor of queer news articles to the Montreal Mirror (2005-present). A couple of my favourite recent articles are here and here.
- Soon-to-be contributor of news articles to the Xtra!, Toronto’s queer newspaper.
- Writer of short fiction and magazine articles. Recent publications include the article “Notes from Outside the Gender Spectrum” in Other Magazine (issue #12, summer 2007) and erotic short story “The Butch, the Boy and Me” in Violet Blue’s anthology Lust: Women’s Erotica, from Cleis Press (spring 2007).
- Organizer and facilitator of Montreal’s Queer Ladies’ Reading Society (for the bent and bookish), a reading group for dykes and other queers of the female (or thereabouts) persuasion (2000-2007).
- Book reviewer for CanadianLesbianLiterature.ca (here) and NoMorePotlucks.org (here).
Recent past stuff
- 2006-2007: Consultant for GRIS (Groupe de recherche et d’intervention sociale), a group which provides anti-homophobia talks in schools; my mandate was to advise them during their process of expanding their mandate to include bisexuality.
- 2005-2007: Founder and senior organizer of CinéKink, Montreal’s monthly BDSM/fetish film and discussion series.
- 2000-2006: Senior organizer of Tip of the Tongue, Montreal’s social group for lesbian and bi women.
- 2000-2006: Hotline listener with Gay Line, Montreal’s listening and information line for GLBT people and others; served three terms as president (2001-2004) and two as a past-president executive board member (2004-2006).
- Safety monitor at Toronto’s Pussy Palace all-women’s bathhouse event (June 2006) and San Francisco’s Bang 4 the Buck all-women’s play party (February 2007 and April 2008), in addition to regular safety monitor duties at Unholy Army of the Night events in Montreal.
- Organizer of Gay Line’s 30th anniversary event, “30 Years of Queer,” (June 8, 2006), a catered eight-member panel presentation featuring queer community historians and activists giving an overview of Montreal’s queer history. Attended by 200 or more community members and covered by the Montreal Gazette, the Montreal Mirror and CTV.
If you’re interested in my workshops and speaking gigs (past, present and possible), take a look at the Workshops page!
thank-you for the workshop in ottawa last saturday evening. It educated me with steps that i can apply with any relationship with involves dignity and respect in a whole new level of understanding which is deep and profound.
cheers,
peter dunnigan
I’m so glad you got something positive from it, Peter! Thanks so much for the note.
Hi Ms. Andrea,
I thought you might interested in this little blog I found on afterellen.com
http://www.afterellen.com/blog/scribegrrrl/gender-genie
I thought since your gender can be so fluid, perhaps your writing reflects this as well. Anyway, it’s food for thought. Especially when you look at what words are considered female and male.
GG
Thanks! It’s a very interesting article… I’ve bookmarked it and I’ll surely end up writing about it here soon. Fascinating stuff.
Hey Andrea! Wanted to let you know I read a few of your posts and throughly enjoyed! Compared to Montreal, I live in a virtual backwater, and reading queer writing is essential to my survival - as is writing my own. Thanks for putting your words out there.
I wanted to email you directly but I could not find your email address on the site for the life of me!
I started a social utility, a la Facebook, but for the BDSM/Fetish community and I would love for you if you do not mind to check it out and give me your feedback on the site.
http://fetlife.com
I really appreciate it and I look forward to hearing back from you.
Your Friend,
John
P.S. sorry for posting this in your about section… I just could not find a way to contact you.
Hey John,
My e-mail address is written in such a way that spammers will have a hard time finding it, but it does show up in my Workshops section a few times - just for future reference. And in case anyone else is reading, it’s veryqueer3 at yahoo dot ca. Anyway, I’ll take a look at your site and send you a note!
Andrea
I like your blog
Just wrote a long letter to this site.
Not into kinky yet just another
sex-on-film if-i-could guy.
So now gathering books on
Poly-lifestyle and ever changing
rules(they will change) rules tend
to do that when least expected.
Getting book titles to buy along
with personal research.
Though I’m a columnist at Poor Magazine
Like being a Vegetarian this will be not
written about only experienced.
All Things are not Grist for the mill
or to be written down.
Joe.
Third response Hello Ms. A. Zanin.
Though I’m not kinky, gay, or female
your site directed me to what was
needed for youthful elder black male
in Kinked out S.F.
Polyamory may just work for me in that even if
I’m no hedonist and like female company
(That’s the problem being completely staight
almost no leeway like my Lesbian, Bi, Transexual,
Trany Bro’s and Sis’s)
However it there are straight women out here/there
joining also much quicker than males I won’t feel as
weird because of this lifestyle change.
Don’t expect to be part of any fem/male run harems
just lots of close FWB’s that are older, mature and about
as for younger wym’s in their mid to late 2o’s, 30’s+
There’s no dicrimination on my part experienced that in
dance club/bars where wymyn are actually out with fem
friends for fun without guys but it sets guys to fail especially
women are dressed to kill for psychological ego boost.
Meanwhile like Pink’s song says “It You And Your Hand Tonight.”
So “gentlemen’s” and dance/bar clubs(unless is pure sex)
are out not worth the “instant rejection factor”
Think about if ladies if you don’t want guys to talk to you
why the dress smoldering hot - so you can say “not him
suffer all of you dawgs.”
Been there don’t that can dance well, kind, considerate, and it feels great to dance but ya know its best to conserve my precious energy for someone not playing psych games.
Polyamory may be a more honest way to meet, greet people,
have casual sex with one or person(s) we really like and without pressure of committment/relationship drama.
Because the people we like are all friends and lovers and they have committments/relationships to other friends even wives for male friends and husbands for lady friends.
Now if we can get the concept of Polyamory Bars less
sweaty dancing that would help both guys and gals and leave
the “Having fun with my girls friends, with a room full of horn dog guys” out in the cold.
Who wants to date “Out for ego boost fems” who aren’t even
there to be with guys but want to punish ‘em for being…
horny guys? ‘YOUR SLEEPING WITH YOUR HAND TONIGHT.
Lets get more polyamory places and have less or
completely eliminate Cock Blockers.
At least in a Lesbian bar guys know why they’re being rejected. I bet if most straight women acting like the above
were in the same place with the same additude it would these
same women being rejected by their fem loving sister’s.
I would love to see your well hung CV. Please tell me where I can see it. I really want it.
Oh, if you would add me to your blogroll that would be sweet.
Thanks
Widow Centauri
http://www.widowcentauri.wordpress.com
http://www.americandominatrix.wordpress.com
Joseph - Nice to meet you! I’m glad this pointed you in a few good directions. I’m not the best-placed person to advise you on poly things in the Bay Area, but if you go to my blogroll and find Freaksexual, you should be able to leave a comment on his blog and ask that very question. He’s very involved in poly work out there and could surely direct you to the kinds of groups that would be a good fit for you.
Funny thing, I’m so unfamiliar with the hetero dating / club scene that the kind of dynamics you write about aren’t really part of my world anymore… vaguely familiar stuff from a distant part of my past. So again I’m not necessarily the best person to help you out. But I wish you best of luck in navigating things; SF is a great place to be for all things alternative, so I’m sure you will do fine as you start exploring! By the way, I really appreciate your sense of respect for the queers and trannies out there.
Widow Centauri - My “well hung CV”? Hee hee! Thanks for the image, I’ll have to describe it as such from now on! I’m loath to post the whole thing here as it truly is enormous, but feel free to drop me a line and I can send it to you if you’re really that curious - veryqueer3 at yahoo dot ca.