Kink Resources

BDSM and Fetish Sexuality: Please, May I Have Some More?
This is more or less a copy of the handout I give out when I teach a BDSM 101-style workshop. It’s deliberately geared towards beginners. In time I may add a section with recommendations for more experienced kinksters. Also for the moment, I’m only listing workshop and event resources in Montreal. I may expand this to include other cities in the future, and create other lists for people looking for resources on non-monogamy and queer stuff too. One step at a time… Enjoy!

Books

• Sensuous Magic by Patrick Califia – an excellent introduction to BDSM for beginners by a well-respected queer and trans veteran of the Scene.
• SM 101 by Jay Wiseman – lots of useful technical and safety information.
• Partners In Power by Jack Rinella – a wonderful exploration of the nature of kinky relationships, how to meet people and how to get what you want.
• Different Loving by Dr. Gloria Brame – not a how-to, but rather an extensive and accessible book listing a huge variety of kinks explained and then illustrated with people’s real-life experiences in their own words.
• The Sensuous Art of Japanese Bondage by Midori – wonderful pictures and diagrams.
• Greenery Press publishes dozens of well-written and informative how-to guides about all sorts of play styles and relationship styles.

Workshops and Events In and Near Montreal

• Attitudes. Viktoria Kalenteris imports well-known presenters such as Midori, and occasionally runs workshops with local presenters. She also hosts a monthly fetish night at Club Nuances, called Secret Playground.
• The Club Fetish calendar. Mistress Jade keeps a detailed and up-to-date list of all that goes on in the city, including workshops in both Montreal and Ottawa.
• Venus Envy, a progressive sex toy shop and bookstore, and Breathless, a membership-based community dungeon space, are both located in Ottawa. If you’re willing to make the two-hour trip, both of these institutions run workshops on a frequent basis.
• Fetish Montreal (subscribe at fetishmontreal-subscribe@yahoogroups.com) is a local list with over 1,200 members where Dunter (of the Loft Le Château, a pansexual play space in the Village) and other local Scene leaders announce their events and workshops.
• The Unholy Army of the Night is Montreal’s group for leatherdykes and trans people, and workshops are generally held once every two months, with other events such as rope bondage meets.
• Club Sin hosts a monthly fetish night at Café Cleopatra. Hetero/pansexual, very fetish-oriented, not play-oriented.
• Fetiche School, run by Isabeau of Le Fetiche Store in the Village, runs huge quarterly pansexual play parties, usually in the Village.
• The Black Eagle, a gay men’s bar in the Village, hosts various contests and events as well as being a good place to ask about groups for men (Dom-Ms Academy, etc.). Info for men’s groups can also be found in Fugues, the gay glossy available throughout the Village, or at Priape.

Websites

I’ll expand this section soon. For now, here’s one site I feel is über-important. The Network / La Red is a Massachusetts-based domestic violence prevention group that has posted a wonderful explanation of the difference between SM and abuse. Pass it on.